Natalie Bowler
I am a cycle breaking mama who is the first in generations to parent responsively and I am here to help you do the same.
Becoming a mother was a journey that began with fear and uncertainty for me. When I was pregnant with my first, I felt lost and scared, as if I were "mothering without a map." Raised by young parents who did their best, I nonetheless felt a deep void, an unfulfilled need for nurture, protection, and guidance. My background in working with adults with trauma and attachment issues helped me learn what not to do as a parent, but it left me at a loss for what I should do as a parent.
My turning point came
when I discovered the work of Kelly McDaniel shortly before my son's birth. Her insights into the essential needs of children—nurture, protection, and guidance—resonated deeply with me. McDaniel's concept of "Mother Hunger®," the longing for unmet maternal needs, made me realize I was about to become a mother while still grappling with my own attachment wounds.
The birth of my son was challenging, marked by trauma within the medical system.
My son, a sensitive and determined child, had high needs from the start, particularly around sleep. This period triggered my unresolved attachment issues, making mainstream parenting advice feel at war with my maternal instincts. I resisted methods like sleep training and behaviorally-based techniques, instead embracing bedsharing, babywearing, and constant physical closeness, despite outside pressure to conform. I am grateful my husband was an unwavering support during that time.
When I became pregnant again, I faced the heartbreak of miscarriage and the insensitive handling of it by medical providers. This loss pushed me toward a more holistic lifestyle, leading to significant changes in diet, physical activity, and medical care. I sought out the best acupuncture and midwifery care, eventually planning for a home birth. The birth of my daughter was a healing experience—a pain-free, blissful home birth that marked a new chapter in my life.
Through these experiences
I learned the importance of radical self-responsibility in healing. I stopped seeking a mother figure outside myself and embraced being the mother I needed, allowing me to nurture, protect, and guide my children authentically. As a family, we prioritize holistic living and spend as much time outdoors as possible. We're now embarking on a year-long journey around the world to explore and learn from different cultures' parenting wisdom.
I am passionate about guiding women, mothers, and families through holistic healing from Mother Hunger® and attachment wounds. My work spans all aspects of conception, pregnancy, birth, and mothering, offering a compassionate and informed approach to parenting.
It is an honor to have you here and I can’t wait to connect with you.
